Family Co-Mediation, we work with many kinds of family
relationships, beyond the marital arena. For
example, we work with:
- Parents and their children – An
obvious arena for conflict is between parents and
teenagers, but conflicts
that arise with younger children can also benefit
- Adult children and their older parents – Even
when children become adults and move away from
home, important conflicts can happen, especially around
life stage transitions such as parents' retirement, the arrival of
grandchildren, estate planning, assisted living arrangements, etc.
- Adult siblings – Sometimes adult siblings struggle
over plans they must make for aging and ailing parents,
or over plans following the death
- Blended families – The remarriage of adults
with children can create a host of conflicts between
parents and stepchildren, and among step-siblings
could benefit from mediation.
- Divorced parents – Co-parenting from
separate households can be especially challenging
for divorced couples.
- Couples – Even couples who
want to maintain their relationship can turn
to mediation to assist in seemingly insurmountable
- Family businesses – Conflicts between relatives
who are also trying to run a successful business
together can carry great risk
on many levels.
Here are some possible scenarios in which families might turn
|Steve and Sally
|Steve and Sally are trying to stay calm
as the passing minutes turn into hours. It is 2:00 a.m.,
well past their 15 year old daughter's curfew. And
is not the first time. They don't know how things got so out of hand.
emotions alternate between panic and rage. Becky has threatened to run away if
they keep "trying to control her life." She has stopped
doing her homework, and lately she has even skipped school. She has come
times, and grounding her hasn't worked. She just screams "you can't
make me stay home" and storms out.
|Anna stares blankly out her kitchen window.
Today is her 70th birthday, but she
doesn't feel like celebrating. For 50 years she worked to build a business
she could leave to her children.
She had assumed that by now she would be retired
and able to do the traveling and relaxing she had denied herself for years. But
her sons, both of whom have joined the business, are fighting, and she's
afraid to leave.
Their arguments over business decisions have turned personal,
each accusing the other of being her favorite son.
When Bill died 4 years ago, he selected
Maggie, the second of his four children, to manage
the family trusts and investments and to take care
of their mother, who
was in failing health.
The two youngest children,
John and Martha, were relieved to avoid this
burden, but Andy, the eldest,
was furious. Even though Maggie was a professional
in the field of finance, he didn't trust her.
their mother died, and it is time to divide the
estate. But Andy is threatening
to sue Maggie in court. And now John and Martha
are furious, because it will take years for them
to finally take
of their inheritance.
In all of these situations, the role of the mediators
- Facilitate communication
- Promote mutual understanding
- Focus the parties on their interests
- Seek creative problem solving
- Enable to parties to move beyond their blocks
and reach their own agreements
Mediation at Family Co-Mediation often leads
to a win/win outcome in which
relationships that were
rebuild and transform.